B&D Valentine’s weekend

I woke up Friday morning to find a lovely card and a small gift-wrapped box sitting next to the answering machine. James had to head out to work extra early on Friday so he decided to surprise me by not making me wait until Friday night for my Valentine’s Day gift. I opened the box and it was a lovely diamond pendant with the words “I love you” inscribed on the back. The card was handwritten on the inside with James sharing words of his devotion to me. It was very lovely.

I had gotten James a card and my plan was to have a B&D session with him as his Valentine’s gift. I say B&D because bondage and domination is a combination that James absolutely loves.  The problem with a quality B&D session is that it takes a lot of thought and work from the Domme. I usually don’t have the time or the energy to construct an elaborate B&D session. Why do you think professional Dommes charge $300 and up for a B&D session? The outfit, the equipment, the time and the skill.

So that was my plan but there was no way I was going to be able to pull this off Friday night. Like most the east coast, we got dumped on Thursday with over a foot of snow. The roads were so bad that James didn’t make it in to work. Therefore he had to go in early on Friday and stay late. Plus we were both tired from shoveling snow (yes, I helped). So James had to take a rain check (or snow check) as I decided to delay his “gift” until Saturday. Friday night we went to dinner (actually had a reservation this year) and returned home and watched a movie.

Yesterday I gave James his gift. After lunch, he was out clearing the walkways and driveway from the additional 3 inches of snow we got Friday night while I got things ready. I told James to shower and meet me in the room where we keep the massage table. I told him there was no need for him to get dressed. The only thing I wanted on his body was the CB6000 with the DL2000.

When James came into the room he saw me in my custom leather pants, knee high leather boots, leather bra, and leather opera gloves. He saw the massage table covered with a sheet and towels with his ankle and wrist cuffs attached with rope to the top of the table legs. Hanging from a hook in the ceiling above the table was the black pumpkin enema bag. On the desk next to the table was my flogger, my short handle riding crop, a rubber mouth gag, rubber tubing, a plastic funnel, a pitcher, the DL 2000 remote, an egg timer and a roll of saran wrap.

I ordered James to lick my boots to help set the proper mood and after 10 minutes or so I had him lay face up on the table. I had him roll on his side and I lubed the aluminum butt-plug shaped enema nozzle and slowly inserted it deep inside of him, then I had him roll back over so he was on his back. I fastened the leather cuffs to his wrists and ankles and locked them in place. I took the saran wrap and mummified him, running the wrap under the table and across his body for several layers. The only part of his body that wasn’t covered was his face, his balls and his chastity device. He was in complete bondage.

I took the rubber mouth gag and inserted it in his mouth and fastened the buckle around the back of his head. I told James that since he would be unable to say his safe word or use hand signals, that if he needed me to stop at any time, he was to give out three short grunts, kind of like Morse code. Once the gag was in place, I had him practice our signal just make sure he could do it and I could hear it clearly.

I cut a very short piece of the rubber tubing and pushed it through the hole in the gag and took the other end and attached it to the funnel. I was able to push the funnel down tightly into the hole of his gag so it stayed in place on its own. Next, I took the pitcher and went across the hall into the bathroom and filled the pitcher with lukewarm water. I returned and poured 90% of the water into the top of the enema bag. With James eyeing my every move (he was able to raise his head just enough to see) I undid the belt on my pants and slid them down. I squatted and deposited a golden shower into the pitcher, which was now 10% water, 90% me. I sat the pitcher on the desk and pulled up my pants and buckled the belt.

I took my gloved hands and ran them over James’s wrapped body, flicking his swollen balls with my fingers as if I were flicking a fly off the wall. James cringed in pain. I moved my hand to the clasp on the enema tubing and moved it to the first position, releasing the warm water and slowly filling my bound hubby. I took the pitcher and poured a small amount into the funnel which ran through the gag and filled his mouth.

“Wait until I give you permission.”

I took the DL2000 remote and sent an intense love pulse to his caged cock. I took the riding crop and began to smack his balls.

“Swallow it, James!”

He gulped down what was in his mouth. I took the pitcher and poured him another mouthful. I moved the clasp on the enema bag to the second position, filling him faster.

“Happy Valentine’s Day, Sweetheart!”

I gave him another love pulse with the DL200 remote. I smacked his balls some more.

“Swallow it, James!”

Another love pulse, a few more smacks to his balls. Then I grabbed my flogger and began to whip his chest and thighs. It made an incredible sound slapping against the saran wrap. I whipped his caged cock and balls, he whimpered, then I moved back to whipping his chest and thighs some more.

“Is everything okay? Nod your head if you want me to continue?”

He nodded his head.

I poured a little more from the pitcher into the mouth gag and I opened the clasp on the enema bag all the way. I squeezed the bag, forcing the rest of the water inside my bound hubby.

I smacked his caged cock and his balls with the flogger.

“Swallow it, James!”

I grabbed the remote and gave him another intense love pulse. I was getting very excited by now. I would have loved to have sat on his face and had him lick me while I continued to torment his genitals but I didn’t trust the table to hold that much weight.

I pulled the desk chair up to the table and sat down, placing my boots up on his stomach.

“Does hubby feel bloated?”

I pressed on his stomach with my boots.

“Let’s set this timer to 5 minutes. When it goes off, I’ll set you free.”

As the timer ticked, I took the riding crop and slapped his body, my boots still resting on his stomach as I sat in the chair. I smacked his wrapped nipples, his chest, his thighs, the bottoms of his feet and of course his balls. By now his balls were purple with a little bruising. I took the remote and gave him a few more love pulses, going from moderate to severe back to moderate. James jerked a little each time but the saran wrap made it difficult to move.

“Are you in discomfort from the enema?”

James shook his head, “Yes”.

“Just another 90 seconds. Suffer for your Goddess.”

I gave him another severe love pulse.

Finally, the timer went off. I took scissors and cut the saran wrap from the table and un-wrapped his body. I took the gag out of his mouth and unlocked the restraints. I helped James up as he held a towel against himself so he wouldn’t leak. I handed him the empty enema bag and he made his wall across the hall to the bathroom.

I commanded him to dispel the enema, shower off, rinse out his mouth and brush his teeth, drink two full glasses of water (so he wouldn’t be dehydrated) and meet me in my bedroom.

I took off my leather clothes and waited in bed, reading a book until James arrived. I had him orally pleasure me until I was satisfied. I thought about unlocking him and giving him a Valentine’s Day orgasm but I decided against it. I want him to wait until March.

And so went our B&D Valentine’s Day session. I know it doesn't sound like a long session but trust me, it was over an hour, about 85 minutes from the time he worshipped my boots to when the timer went off and I cut him free. I know he appreciates me and all I went through to put that “scene” together, and he’d better. Anyone can buy a gift and a card. My gift took lots of thought, energy and love.

Being pampered + DL 2000 + ball gag dildo harness = memorable Saturday night

I’ll be brief with this as I don’t have much time but I wanted to share what I did with James on Saturday night. He was of course in chastity and wearing the Dream Lover 2000 device and I had requested a night of being pampered.

James bathed me (warm bubble bath), shaved my legs (while I soaked in the tub) and then we retreated to the massage table where he gave me a wonderful full body massage. I was very nice to him, not once using the DL 2000 as I wanted to relax and enjoy being pampered. I became very aroused during the massage but I wanted more than just body worship and oral servitude. I was in the mood for a good fucking but the problem is I am not seeing anyone locally. Yes, there is Derik but he lives on the west coast and we are probably not going to be seeing each other until March. So what was I to do? Obviously I wasn’t going to allow my husband this honor.

Then it hit me. The ball gag dildo harness I had bought when I was in Vegas with Ginger back in September. It’s been awhile since we played with that wonderful toy. So after my massage, we retired to the bedroom and I allowed James to worship my body for a few minutes to further my arousal. Then I ordered him to fetch the ball gag harness from my toy chest.

 

I buckled it around his head, the gag securely in his mouth, and I ordered hubby to pleasure me with it. I lied back on the bed and using his face and his neck muscles, James carefully guided the dildo inside of me and he began to fuck me with it. It felt fantastic but I decided to train him how I wanted to be pleasured. Therefore, I reached over on my night stand and grabbed the DL 2000 remote. Using the same code system we use when he is orally pleasuring me, I trained hubby when to go slower, when to go faster, and when to hold still with the dildo that was strapped to his face.

 

 

The beauty of the face harness gag was that a few times I gave James a “severe” love pulse and his grunts of discomfort were muffled by the ball gag. I had a blast, and the pleasure was wonderful. I usually have difficulty climaxing from penis/dildo penetration unless my clit is also being stimulated. But as the pleasure built, I had the most intense, full body orgasm that I’ve experienced in some time. It absolutely drained me. And from the way James basically collapsed when I gave him permission to withdraw the dildo, he was also drained from exhaustion. He really had a workout pleasuring me this way, using his neck muscles, gagging, and being trained with the DL 2000 all at the same time.

 

 

Hubby hates the Dream Lover 2000

This most wickedly clever device has really done a number on James’ mind. It’s funny because he likes to be controlled by a woman and I’ve utilized technology to control James in the past with electric cock rings, intercoms, surveillance cameras, etc. But the Dream Lover 2000 has taken things to a new level in control.

Perhaps I am at fault for how I use the device but I can’t seem to help myself. When I want something from hubby, I want it now and the remote control is just so handy to use to summons James, and to punish him when he is too slow with his response. I’ve also come to really enjoy having the remote control in hand while James is orally pleasuring me. I love to press the button and send ‘love pulses’ to his genitals while he is licking me. It gets me more excited but he hates it as it has made what was an act of worship for him and turned it more into torture. He just never knows when I’m going to press that damn remote so he is constantly on edge. His insecurity and his discomfort just adds to my pleasure (am I a bad person for enjoying this?) but I admit that I feel a little sorry for him.

Then there is the ability for me to dominate him from a distance, using a phone app to activate the Dream Lover 2000 while I am at work or out with a girlfriend, I’ll send ‘love pulses’ to let him know that I’m thinking about him. Of course ‘love pulses’ can be mild or severe, depending on my mood. Like I said before, it is a very wicked invention and in the wrong hands, it can be downright cruel. At times, I feel like being a little cruel, not too cruel, but hey, they made the severe setting for a reason, right? It would be a shame not to use it every now and then. If all I ever did was use the mild or moderate settings, I don’t think it would be as effective of a training device. I like to keep James off balance. I like to keep him guessing.

The downside to this is that my poor hubby is on pins and needles. He actually fears me. Well, maybe not me but he fears me having access to the remote or the phone app. I love having this much control but I don’t want him on pins and needles all the time. I want him to enjoy this lifestyle as much as I do.

Therefore, we have come to a compromise. He only has to wear the Dream Lover Monday nights, Wednesday nights, Friday nights and all day Saturday. Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday he is free to move around the house without any fear that I am going to summons him or discipline him with the press of the DL 2000 remote. We will give this a try and see how things work out.

Having fun with the Dream Lover 2000

Oh yeah, I am definitely loving this device. It might be one of the best Christmas gifts I’ve received in years. But I don’t think hubby feels the same way. I can see how in the wrong hands (wink, wink) the DL 2000 could be most cruel.

Now that we got the darn thing working right, I don’t know how I lived without it. I love the “pager” button to summons hubby whenever I need him. It works inside our entire house. Over the Christmas holiday, as I was relaxing on the couch watching my favorite Christmas movies, all I had to do was “summons” James with a push of a button and he came running to re-fill my drink or prepare me a snack. With the pager button he gets a quick, short intense pulse to his genitals. When I summons him, if he doesn’t get to me within 10 seconds, I push the “high” (severe) button to discipline him. He hates that one so James has caught on rather quickly that its best not to procrastinate when I need him.

And now that hubby has finally figured out how I can use it with my iPhone, he is never out of my reach as long as he is home. For example, the other day as I was in my car, parked at the store, I called him to check to see if he had finished one of his chores. He had not, so using my DL 2000 iPhone app, I was able to discipline him, right there from my car. The possibilities are endless. Like I said, this can be a most wicked invention in the wrong hands.

It didn’t start out very good. We couldn’t get the DL 2000 to work with hubby’s CB6000 chastity device. So I had to put him back in the CB3000. He likes the CB6000 better but until he can figure out how to get the Dream Lover to work with the CB6000, he will have to sacrifice for me and wear the CB3000.

James also had trouble figuring out how I could use it with my laptop and iPhone. It didn’t work at first but to his credit, he finally figured it out. James is tech savvy so I knew he could resolve it.

Last night was a real blast. After a wonderful massage, we retired to the bedroom and I had hubby go down on me. With remote in hand, I used the DL 2000 to correct his performance as he was pleasuring me. When I hit the ‘mild’ button that meant I wanted him to go slower. When I hit the ‘moderate’ button that meant I wanted him to go faster. And when I hit the ‘severe’ button that just meant I wanted to keep him off balance, torture him a little to add to my pleasure. It was a lot of fun, at least for me anyways.

One positive side-effect of the DL 2000 is that it seems to have cured James from leaking so much pre-cum. He has been on the edge of having an accident several times in recent weeks, but when I was using the Dream Lover last night, he was fairly limp the whole time he was pleasuring me. The anticipation of my ‘love pulses’ limited his arousal and kept him under control.

Tomorrow night is the big night. The question is, do I allow hubby an orgasm to bring in the new year or do I make him wait until January 6? I haven’t decided yet.

Ginger’s most generous Christmas gift

I received a package yesterday from my dominant girlfriend Ginger. To my surprise, it was her Dream Lover 2000 device along with the remote and accessories to be able to use it with a computer. For those not familiar with the Dream Lover 2000, here is the website. Ginger has used it the past two years in training her husband.

I called her up and thanked her for the gift but I was also curious as to why she no longer needed it. Ginger feels her hubby has been properly trained by the device and she is ready to take things to a new level. She plans on getting her husband pierced the week between Christmas and New Years and will be installing a more permanent chastity device for long-term wear on him. Her hubby is off that week which will give him time to adjust to the new device before he has to go back to work.

As of yesterday Ginger has not made a final decision on the device. She has narrowed it down to 2. It will be either a Lori’s chastity device or one from Mature Metal. From our conversation she seemed to be leaning toward the Queen’s Keep from Mature Metal as she likes the idea of adding the spike strip for c/b play.

Ginger’s lifestyle has taken on a new direction lately. Ginger pretty much played the field, especially on her business travels, but recently she and her lover Dante have become more serious with each other. Dante is the stud she met at the CFNM party we attended back in April of 2012. Dante has recently gotten an apartment that is closer to Ginger’s house so they can spend more time together. Ginger’s hubby cooks dinner for them and is now required to clean Dante’s apartment as well as Ginger’s house.

I must confess that I am a little envious of Ginger as her femdom marriage seems to keep evolving. I sometimes feel that James and I are stagnant but I am excited about the idea of playing around with the Dream Lover 2000. It works in accordance with a CB 3000 and CB 6000. We have both so we can start using it right away.

Being fitted for custom made leather outfits

I just got back from Louisville this past Monday and now I am heading to Las Vegas with my friend Ginger. It’s a long story but Ginger wrote me and she is going out there for her job and she invited me to go with her. We will be staying at the Cosmopolitan. While we are there, Ginger is going to be measured for custom fit fetish wear. And she has arranged it so I will also be measured. Not sure what all I will end up buying but if I go through the time-consuming task of being measured from neck to foot, I’m sure I will come away with at least a pair of new leather pants and/or boots.

It should be a blast, with us two married women set loose on the Vegas strip, while our cuckolded hubbies stay home and tend to their chores. Technology will play a key part. I monitored hubby while I was in Kentucky and I will be doing the same from Vegas. And of course Ginger has been using technology longer than I have when it comes to domming her hubby. She can send pulses of punishment straight from her computer to his Dream Lover chastity device.

I can see it now. Us gals coming back to our room after a night of partying in Vegas. I get on my computer to monitor my hubby who is inside the confinement room, in chastity, wearing my panties. I might call him on his cell phone and wake him up, perhaps have him humiliate himself for our entertainment as we watch from my computer screen, laughing and giggling. And then Ginger gets on her computer and sends “pulses of love” to her hubby’s Dream Lover, waking him up. The 3 hour time difference will make it all the more wicked. It might be 1am Vegas time but it will be 4am eastern time.

Ginger wants to hit one of the Day Clubs, where all the young hunky guys hang out pool side. I’m not sure that’s my thing but she’ll probably drag me along with her. Ginger said she has a contact at the Encore Beach Club. It’s supposed to hit 103 on Sunday. A day in the hot sun with my fair skin, I don’t think so unless she can swing a cabana. We’ll see. Ginger acts (and looks) like she can hang with the young crowd. Ginger has the body for a Day Club. I’ve accepted and embraced my age. Personally, I think I have a better chance of snagging me a young stud at a dark night club, when I’m wearing a tight pair of leather pants, dancing up a storm with Ginger. We’ll put on a show that will make men notice. My confidence comes from my dominance.

If I get a custom made leather outfit, I’ll be sure to have my hubby take some pictures when I get home and perhaps I’ll post a few on my blog.

Hubby has been wonderful. We had a discipline session Wednesday night when I broke the news that I was heading out again. I did the session inside the confinement room. Hubby was bound to the wall and whipped with my long handle riding crop and then I took him with my strap-on. It was while I was taking him with the strap-on that I told him about Vegas. I think he was relieved that I was going with Ginger and not Thomas again. Thomas and I had a lot of fun in Louisville but I’m looking forward to a girl’s trip. 

Ginger and the Dream Lover 2000

Yesterday I visited an old friend (I’ll refer to her as Ginger due to her resemblance to the actress Tina Louise who played Ginger on the old “Gilligan’s Island" sitcom). I know Ginger from our ClubFEM days. Readers of my blog may recall that I was supposed to attend a Halloween party in the DC area with Ginger but the weather prevented me. We’ve been communicating by e-mail and she’s wanted us to get together. Ginger desired to show off the current state of her femdom marriage to me so yesterday at 2:00pm I left here and drove to her house while James stayed home and attended to his chores.

Ginger was the epitome of a nervous beginner when she and her hubby joined my ClubFEM group back in 2003. She made it clear that first night that she was only there because this was her husband’s idea and she was doing it for him. But she was a lot of fun and although she was nervous, I could tell she was having a good time. They came back almost every month until the group had to change locations.

I hadn’t heard from Ginger for many years before she e-mailed me in October after her husband had discovered my blog. We talked on the phone and I couldn’t believe how their marriage had evolved. In many ways, they had surpassed what James and I were doing with this lifestyle.

I arrived around 5:30. Ginger greeted me in her driveway and escorted me into her house. We visited while her hubby attended to his chores. He was totally clothed but wearing an apron. He was cooking us dinner. Ginger summoned her hubby to the living room and she was anxious to show off her new training tool. She had bought the Dream Lover 2000 which she called a ‘male management device’. It’s a radio-signal electric gizmo that attaches to a CB-3000 or CB-6000 chastity device.

He was wearing a CB-3000 and Ginger had a remote control where she could transmit various levels of discomfort to her hubby’s encaged genitals with a push of a button. One of the settings was a pager and whenever we needed our glassed re-filled or snacks brought to us, Ginger would ‘summon’ her husband with a push of a button. The DL2000 works all over their house so he is never out of range.

Ginger described to me how she is using the device to further train her hubby. He is in chastity all the time when he is at home, and most times when they go out, and if he slacks in his chores or needs an attitude adjustment, she administers a moderate to severe jolt with her remote. But it’s not a shock. She had her hubby describe the sensation and he said it was more like a hard, quick slap to his genitals. He said it wasn’t painful like the old method they used but he still didn’t like the sensation and he feared it. Ginger just smiled.

After he left the room, Ginger told me that the old method was a small dog shock collar that her husband had modified to wear with his chastity device. She used that to train him in many areas until she found out about the Dream Lover 2000. What she likes about the DL2000 is she travels a lot for her job and she can get on the internet and control the device from wherever she is at. It also has a leash setting that works like an electric fence where she can confine her hubby to the house and if he passes the boundaries that she sets, he will get that most unpleasant sensation in his genitals and it will repeat ever couple of seconds until he returns to his boundaries. So basically she can make him a prisoner in his own home.

I had never heard of the DL2000 so I inquired about the price. When Ginger told me what it cost, I was about floored. She called it an add-on but it was five times more expensive than the CB-3000 chastity device. As intrigued as I was by this gizmo, I knew it would not be for us at this time as I have a lot more on my femdom wish list before I would spring for a DL2000. And really, I don’t know if it would be a good fit for our current lifestyle but it works perfectly for Ginger’s lifestyle with the amount of time she travels.

Ginger never did enjoy whipping or spanking her husband so chastity training and a hands-free discipline device like the DL2000 is perfect for her. And seeing how much money I have in my current whip and paddle collection, I guess we’ve spent just as much on tools of discipline when you add it all up. Of course I accumulated mine over many years whereas the DL2000 is a one-time purchase. Plus I enjoy the physical hands on approach whereas Ginger likes to discipline her hubby with technology. To each her own!

As we visited and shared what we had been up to these past years, the topic eventually got around to cuckolding. Ginger said that she used her original hands-free discipline tool (the dog shock collar modified to be used with her husband’s chastity device) to train him not to be jealous when she ‘fools around’ with other men. She told me how her hubby had been unfaithful to her back in 2002 and one of the reasons they joined ClubFEM was her attempt to save her marriage.

She was adamant that he wear a chastity device so she could control him. Later as she became more educated about female domination and she learned about cuckolding, she decided that she would turn the tables on him. It has become a regular part of their marriage for the past five years. She mostly sleeps with other men when she is away on business trips, all with the knowledge that her hubby is at home, in chastity, doing his long list of chores. Now she can use the DL2000 to discipline him while she is on the road by using the internet.

It was a very interesting visit. I could only stay for a couple of hours and I left right after dinner because I wanted to hit the outlet mall on my way home to return a few items. Ginger wants me and her to go out some night for a ‘Cougar night’ in the DC area where we are on the prowl for younger men. I mentioned that it would be fun to bring our hubbies with us and make them watch us from a distance. I don’t own a DL2000 but I have an electric cock ring with a remote control and I could make James wear it. Ginger liked that idea so maybe come spring when the weather warms up we’ll arrange it.

When I got home last night, I got on the internet and looked up the Dream Lover 2000.

It is an impressive website and an impressive product. Maybe I’ll add it to my femdom wish list but it will have to go way down on the list due to the hefty price. A new strap-on harness, another whip or two and some newer leather outfits will take priority.