Femdom and Romance

I had a wonderful evening with my hubby the other night. He made me a special dinner and later on that night he bathed me in what turned out to be a long, romantic bubble bath. That was followed by him performing body worship on me, pleasuring me with his gifted mouth and tongue. That brings me to the subject of femdom and romance.

A couple needs balance in their lives so I believe for a successful femdom relationship, the more hardcore D&S needs to be balanced with plenty of soft and romantic femdom activities. Perhaps my favorite is the romantic bubble bath. For men who have never done this with their Queen, here are some tips based on how I like it.

Before your Queen enters the bathroom, you need to set the mood. First of all, make sure the bathroom is spotless. Nothing ruins the mood for romance like a dirty bathroom. Next, draw her bath water and add the bubble bath. A bubble bath comes in so many varieties it can be difficult to choose the right one. If you know your Queen has a special favorite, use that one. If you don’t know where to start, head out to your local “Bed, Bath and Beyond” store and ask the saleslady.

Also, while you’re there check into getting some bath soaks. These are usually a blend of ingredients you add to your bath water to create a desired effect, such as a sore muscle soak, stress-easing soak or relaxation soak. Most bath and body and drug stores carry bath soak products.

While the water is warm filling the tub, light candles around the tub. Tea lights are easy to use, they make very little mess and are easy to throw away once cooled. Don't place candles where you may splash water on them.

Have an I-Pod in the bathroom and play some romantic music. Again, plan ahead and have the I-Pod ready to go. Need a suggestion? How about “The Look of Love” by Diana Krall. You can’t go wrong with Diana Krall. She’s one of my favorites when it comes to relaxing in a bubble bath.

Also, you might want to have some chocolates or champagne or wine (or her favorite beverage) ready to go. You can feed her the chocolates while you are bathing her and she can sip the champagne.

And don’t forget to plan for the after-bath. Have some warm towels ready for her. Put some big, fluffy towels in the dryer and take them out just prior to giving her the bath. My hubby has been properly trained and the warm towels are a must for me.

Once your Queen’s bath is prepared, summon her, undress her, assist her in the tub and let the fun begin. Pour her a glass of champagne or wine and allow her to drink it as she soaks. Then bathe her with your soapy hands and a soft sponge. If she permits it (based on the rules of your femdom marriage) play with her breasts and caress her nipples as you bathe her. Finger her clit a little as you bathe that region of her body. Plant kisses on her shoulders, her neck, and her arms as you bathe her. Feed her the chocolates (or fruit or whatever she enjoys).

Perhaps she will want to soak alone. Some wives prefer that. In those cases, get her a servant’s bell, which she can ring when she wants you for something. You could be knelling outside the bathroom door awaiting her command, and as soon as you hear the bell, you rush to her side and do her bidding (putting more bubble bath in the tub, refilling her wine glass, feeding her more chocolates, etc.)

Once she is finished with her bath, you will assist her out of the tub and dry her with a warm, fluffy towel. Now it is time to retreat to the bedroom.

There, you will massage her skin with moisturizing lotion (another item to get at “Bed, Bath and Beyond”). Take your time and don’t rush but worship every inch of her body with your hands.

Finally, you will make love to her body using only your mouth and tongue. The perfect evening will be topped off by you orally pleasuring your Queen, bringing her to multiple orgasms.

One final note - A romantic moment is easily ruined with unwanted disruptions. Arrange your bath encounter at a time when you can be together alone. If that is not possible at your home, a great way to do this and create the perfect memorable night is staying at hotel with a spa or Jacuzzi tub in your room.