I like to think I have a
little creativity but I must admit that I do have a tendancy to allow things to become
mundane. The confinement room has infused some fresh excitement into my femdom
marriage but I don’t want to fall into the comfortable habit of just locking my
hubby in there while I go about my business, both socially and domestically. So
I welcome input and creative ideas from my readers. And it doesn’t just have to
be about me utilizing the confinement room. I am seeking new ideas on ways I
can punish, discipline and humiliate my husband. He wanted cruel, so I ask … “How
can I make him ‘regret’ (maybe regret is not the best word, perhaps a better
word would be ‘question’) the day he asked me to treat him more cruelly.”
I want to humiliate him,
emasculate him and drive him deeper into submission. But I am afraid I lack the
creativity to make this happen on my own. I enjoy keeping him in chastity. I
enjoy disciplining him. I enjoy making him into my cuckold. And so far I like
having the confinement room at my disposal. But let’s put our minds together
and see what else I can do (remember it must be safe and healthy) to my hubby.
I ask that you post your ideas on here for all to read. I am not against receiving private e-mails but I would rather any audience participation be open on this blog. If you feel your idea might be too over the top, then by all means send it to me in a private e-mail. I will not judge anyone. If I don't like an idea or feel it is too 'out there' for us, I will just ignore it.
I ask that you post your ideas on here for all to read. I am not against receiving private e-mails but I would rather any audience participation be open on this blog. If you feel your idea might be too over the top, then by all means send it to me in a private e-mail. I will not judge anyone. If I don't like an idea or feel it is too 'out there' for us, I will just ignore it.
go with the flow , follow your heart and if he likes it its ok if he doesn't don't do it again , its simple like that
ReplyDeleteI wonder what kind of car your husband drives? It is appropriate, considering his place in life? I drove various two seat convertibles my whole married life, until my wife began to dominate me. She decided that the 7 year old mini van is more appropriate as my primary vehicle. These days she enjoys the attention she gets while driving the convertible. It makes her feel even sexier. Almost everyone I know has asked me why I do not drive the convertible any more. I tell them "My wife has been enjoying it lately." Every time I walk up to my mini van I am reminded of my position in our marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou and your boyfriend might take your husband's nice car (if he has one) to a car lot and trade it in. You and your boyfriend would decide together what your husband will be driving from now on. You might bring your husband along to sign over the existing car and be humiliated by the whole experience publicly.
I like the suggestion but I don't think my boyfriend should have a say. I do not view him as being superior to my hubby. They both fulfill certan needs in my life but I believe in femdom thus I alone will make the decisions as they relate to my marriage and how I dominate my hubby. But I like the idea of me driving a 'cool' car whereas my hubby drives a 'domesticated' vehicle.
ReplyDeleteHumiliate him through your lover and in front of him.
ReplyDeleteFor example you can tell him that he hasn't been polite enough to your lover. Then wash his mouth with soap in front of him, and make your hubby watch you treating your lover so good whereas he feels jealous and ridiculous with his mouth plenty of soap.
I don't know the construction details of your confinement room but I imagine the following: You open a trap where you can suspend the condoms from your last love session with your lover. Your husband is in bondage, forced to have all his weight supported on his knees only. He will be released from his uncomfortable position only after he goes through the humiliation of reaching for each condom with his mouth, piercing them with his teeth and sucking & drinking the content to the last drop and then thanking you for still having some kinky thoughts for him after being pleased by your lover.
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ReplyDeletethese are my suggestions:
Even if you don’t view your boyfriend as being superior to your hubby, it might be interesting to let him take care of the CB keys. Of course you decide the duration of his chastity, but your boyfriend knowing exactly how long you husband is in chastity - and that your husband is denied what you give to him - must be humiliating. When hubby´s eventually allowed an orgasm, he must cum by masturbating or fucking an inflatable sex doll while you and your boyfriend are watching.
Having to ask permission before using your bathroom. If he’s denied permission, he must wait another hour before he’s allowed to ask again.
Hi Kathleen,
ReplyDeleteI think you're already doing a great job on your husband and I'm not sure you need much input.
But, since you asked here are some suggestions:
* Hubby has to save up to buy you dinner/holidays with Thomas; this involves him making sacrifices.
* if he doesn't already, he should buy condoms for you
* as suggested by Anon42, a used condom can be very humiliating, a good whipping with the condom in his mouth, then instruct him to bit into it.
* when hubby gets to come, make him explode onto his own face (e.g legs dangling over the back of the settee)
* when he gets to come, make him jerk off into the trash
* Hubby presumably loves certain things you wear (clothes, perfume). Stop wearing them for him, and wear them for your lovers. And of course hubby still has to buy them.
* make him wear an electric dog collar around his balls, (I know you've already posted about the dreamlover system, but this is much more affordable) this kind of device can fit even with a CB device in place. Millions of opportunities for fun here. E.g., you're upstairs in bed getting it on with Thomas while Hubby's locked in the confinement cage getting zapped.
* hubby doesn't get to come during sex. When you have had your orgasm, he goes back into the chastity device with no relief. If he can't hold back there are anaesthetic creams to desensitize him.
Hope that helps! Looking forward to your future posts with great anticipation...
Your husband and lover as so lucky to have found you.
ReplyDeleteThere are some great ideas here. It is hard for me to imagine that your husband does not see your boyfriend as superior to himself... but I can get there if I dwell on it long enough. I think that your boyfriend must be someone who you are using for pleasure, entertainment, and to humiliate your husband. He is not an equal to you, he is there for your purposes, as is your husband, but in different ways. With this in mind, the humiliation options change.
-The "domesticated" car plan could be implemented, but would only have a big impact if he currently drives something much nicer than his "new ride". You might add a feminine decal to the back window also. Something like a fairy or a butterfly would be embarrassing...
-I also like the idea of your spending special times with your boyfriend instead of your husband. If your husband likes football, for example, you might celebrate some event by taking your boyfriend to a game. You might let your husband listen to the game... through his intercom system. The event you are celebrating might be your wedding anniversary, or someone's birthday, or just an important home game!
-How about some jewelry Ms Kathleen?! If you could have your boyfriend buy you something special, and then make a point of wearing it often, that would be rather humiliating to a husband. I can imagine sitting at a the dinner table with my wife after we have both finished eating. She is relaxed in her chair, leaning back and playing with her ear rings that her boyfriend recently bought her. She smiles a knowing smile then stands and begins to walk away as she says "Let me know when you are done with the dishes. While you do that, I will be typing a little email to my boyfriend."
Mmm!
ReplyDeleteI copy the best suggestions in my opinion.
1) If you could have your boyfriend buy you something special, and then make a point of wearing it often, that would be rather humiliating to a husband.
2) "Let me know when you are done with the dishes. While you do that, I will be typing a little email to my boyfriend."
3) Hubby presumably loves certain things you wear (clothes, perfume). Stop wearing them for him, and wear them for your lovers. And of course hubby still has to buy them.
4) * if he doesn't already, he should buy condoms for you
5) * Hubby has to save up to buy you dinner/holidays with Thomas; this involves him making sacrifices.
Ms Kathleen,
ReplyDeleteIf you are a little squeamish (to use your own word) to make your husband lick, suck or eat your lover's cum, I suggest that you go in steps and see how both you and your husband react.
1)make your husband cum in a condom while looking at a picture of you and your lover kissing and fondling and then use some of the previous post suggestions but with full knowledge that it is his cum that he is required to eat.(being his own cum, perhaps you will feel less squeamish about the act)
2)make your husband suck the outside of a condom containing your lover's cum. Test his feelings. Ask him what he would think of having to drink the content if this was the only way he could get his next release.
3) make him smell the content and ask him to praise the smell and tell you how much he would like to eat it.
4)Tell him that his next release will only be after he promises that if you request it, he will accept to taste some of your lover's condom juice, at least a few drops.
5) make him choose between 2 condoms to drink from, one being from his recent ejaculation, the other one from your lover, but only you know which is which. Or start by asking him to spread and rub one of the condom content on his face.
6)If he showed some opening to the idea but does not feel ready yet, you can fool him by making him believe that it his his condom that you are presenting to him when in reality it is one from your lover. Watch his reaction when you tell him what he did in reality after the fact.
On a less sexual note, keeping him locked to a chain between his balls and the pipe of the kitchen sink or any other solid place in the house would be another form of humiliation.
For a mild form of public humiliation, take a nice picture of you and your lover together and leave it on the corner of the table when you to a restaurant with your husband. You can tell the waitress when she brings the plates that "Oups, sorry! Let me put the picture of my boyfriend away".
If you are a little more daring, you can have a nice dinner with your lover in a restaurant with you husband getting a separate table from yours. When the time comes to pay the addition, you tell the waitress that it is your husband at this other table who will pay for both you and your boyfriend.
Oh! I forgot one suggestion involving pictures: On a table or on a wall somewhere in the house, in a rather visible place, keep 2 framed pictures: one of you with your lover in an affectionate posture and one of you and you husband at your feet. Depending upon your degree of comfort with eventual visitors, the one with your husband can be with him seated on the ground at your feet while you are seated on the couch (it does not have to be more revealing of a mistress/slave relationship than you are comfortable with as a display in your house, but your husband will be very conscious of what it represents)
ReplyDeleteFor the picture with your lover, if questioned by visitors, you can say that it is a picture of you with a very close friend of yours. Your husband will know better and it will be a constant reminder of you and your lover whenever he is in the house.
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