One of my favorite suggestions thus far is for me to tease my hubby by flaunting any gifts that Thomas has given me. I did this year’s ago when I was doing phone calls and live sessions with clients. Some of my clients would send me gifts and I would always use them to test my hubby’s submission as well as using them to train him to choose obedience over jealousy, which was of course an important precursor to our current lifestyle. It was a wonderful training ground to have other men send me gifts, give me flowers, make me music CD’s, and my personal favorite was when this one man hand crafted some wicked paddles for me to spank my hubby with. Now that was humiliation.
As far as Thomas goes, he did buy me some beautiful emerald earrings which I wore the other night when James and I went to dinner, and of course I made sure that James knew they were from Thomas.
Another suggestion I have already used is I make sure that one of James’ duties is to ensure that there are condoms in the nightstand next to my bed. There is a whole list of items (most are non-sexual) that my hubby is required to check on and replenish in my bedroom and bathroom and should I ever run out of any of them, he is punished. Since I’ve been seeing Thomas, condoms have been added to hubby’s list. He is also required to change my bed sheets and prepare my bed any time Thomas is going to be spending the night.
I’ve thought about employing the used condoms as a hubby humiliation tool (without Thomas knowing of course). But I don’t think we’re ready for that yet. Maybe I’ll strategically place them on James’ body as he is bound in the confinement room to start with. I must confess that I’m a bit squeamish about emptying the contents of the condoms in hubby’s mouth. One suggestion I received in my e-mail was to place the used condom inside out over my strap-on and make James suck it. Definitely wild but again, I’m a little squeamish to try it. Who knows, I might try and I might love doing something that degrading to James. A Mistress needs to expand her boundaries just as much as she needs to expand the boundaries of her submissive.
Keep those suggestions coming!