Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Lots of wonderful suggestions … keep them coming!

A lot of the suggestions so far have to do with me using Thomas to further humiliate my husband. This is doable but it must be without Thomas’ participation because he really has no idea to the degree that I dominate James, and I want to keep it that way. Thomas simply thinks that I have a one-way open marriage and that James gets excited about the whole hot-wife/cuckolding scene. But he has no idea about the confinement room or my whip and toy collection or this blog or my past femdom adventures. So keep this in mind when sharing those wonderfully creative ideas.

 One of my favorite suggestions thus far is for me to tease my hubby by flaunting any gifts that Thomas has given me. I did this year’s ago when I was doing phone calls and live sessions with clients. Some of my clients would send me gifts and I would always use them to test my hubby’s submission as well as using them to train him to choose obedience over jealousy, which was of course an important precursor to our current lifestyle. It was a wonderful training ground to have other men send me gifts, give me flowers, make me music CD’s, and my personal favorite was when this one man hand crafted some wicked paddles for me to spank my hubby with. Now that was humiliation. 

As far as Thomas goes, he did buy me some beautiful emerald earrings which I wore the other night when James and I went to dinner, and of course I made sure that James knew they were from Thomas.  

Another suggestion I have already used is I make sure that one of James’ duties is to ensure that there are condoms in the nightstand next to my bed. There is a whole list of items (most are non-sexual) that my hubby is required to check on and replenish in my bedroom and bathroom and should I ever run out of any of them, he is punished. Since I’ve been seeing Thomas, condoms have been added to hubby’s list. He is also required to change my bed sheets and prepare my bed any time Thomas is going to be spending the night.  

I’ve thought about employing the used condoms as a hubby humiliation tool (without Thomas knowing of course). But I don’t think we’re ready for that yet. Maybe I’ll strategically place them on James’ body as he is bound in the confinement room to start with. I must confess that I’m a bit squeamish about emptying the contents of the condoms in hubby’s mouth. One suggestion I received in my e-mail was to place the used condom inside out over my strap-on and make James suck it. Definitely wild but again, I’m a little squeamish to try it. Who knows, I might try and I might love doing something that degrading to James. A Mistress needs to expand her boundaries just as much as she needs to expand the boundaries of her submissive.  

Keep those suggestions coming!

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Welcoming suggestions from my readers

I’ve decided to make my blog more of an audience participation blog, at least for the time being. The inspiration for this was the list of wonderful suggestions Aberrant Goddess posted on my August 12th entry about creative ways I could utilize the confinement room. Since then, I have received other ideas, mostly through private e-mails, of how I should dominate and punish my hubby.  

I like to think I have a little creativity but I must admit that I do have a tendancy to allow things to become mundane. The confinement room has infused some fresh excitement into my femdom marriage but I don’t want to fall into the comfortable habit of just locking my hubby in there while I go about my business, both socially and domestically. So I welcome input and creative ideas from my readers. And it doesn’t just have to be about me utilizing the confinement room. I am seeking new ideas on ways I can punish, discipline and humiliate my husband. He wanted cruel, so I ask … “How can I make him ‘regret’ (maybe regret is not the best word, perhaps a better word would be ‘question’) the day he asked me to treat him more cruelly.” 

I want to humiliate him, emasculate him and drive him deeper into submission. But I am afraid I lack the creativity to make this happen on my own. I enjoy keeping him in chastity. I enjoy disciplining him. I enjoy making him into my cuckold. And so far I like having the confinement room at my disposal. But let’s put our minds together and see what else I can do (remember it must be safe and healthy) to my hubby.

I ask that you post your ideas on here for all to read. I am not against receiving private e-mails but I would rather any audience participation be open on this blog. If you feel your idea might be too over the top, then by all means send it to me in a private e-mail. I will not judge anyone. If I don't like an idea or feel it is too 'out there' for us, I will just ignore it.